15 dating terms we want to bring back
Back before booty calls, sexting and e-mail break-ups, there were many sweet and silly dating descriptions that may be ready for a reboot. Here are 15 such terms that one Glamour relationships blogger would like to see make a comeback.
Long before we were sexting and sexiling and friending and becoming Facebook official, we were "seeing someone special" and "rendezvousing." Call us old-fashioned, but once upon a time, there were some pretty sweet dating terms that, if genuinely brought back, could really change the game. Here are 15 vintage dating terms that need to make a comeback:
1. Woo, court. These are verbs. They imply effort on the man's part (You never hear about a woman courting a man). Also: wouldn't you rather be courted than chased? "Chased" sounds like we have to run for our lives or play a strategic spy game. But if a man is going to court us, it sounds like we can get comfortable.
2. Dance card. Men had to plan ahead and compete just to reserve one waltz or jitterbug with you. Take a number, boys!
3. Necking. Great word meaning "making out passionately." But also kind of weird.
4. Parking. I've always wanted to drive to Inspiration Point and park with a fella.
5. Going steady. This used to mean "dating exclusively," but it's such an accurate description of the pseudo-quasi-relationship nonsense that goes on today. Literally, you're going along, seeing each other steadily, as far as you know, until he stops texting. The term would be so useful in modern times; if someone asks, "Are you two 'boyfriend-girlfriend,'" you could answer, "Well, we had a great momentum that first week, and so far, anyway, we're going steady."
6. First base, second base. This little system is much better and far more accurate than the catch-all term "hooking up," which is too vague and general, and therefore inadequate.
7. "When can I see you?" and "Can I call you?" Remember when guys respectfully asked permission to make contact with you, and they made reference to actually picking up the receiver on the telephone and speaking into it?
8. Beau, paramour, suitor, lover. Some women still use these romantic-sounding terms. I don't use them enough, Darling.
9. Dear John letter. Back in the day, it was totally legit to break up with someone through the post. So why do we feel bad about emailing or texting someone a rejection?
10. Dalliance. A classier synonym for "fling." A fling sounds like an accident, or something hasty or messy. A dalliance sounds like something you enjoyed while summering in Capri.
11. Dreamboat. Because "hottie" just doesn't do George Clooney justice. And we're not ready to bring back "hunk."
12. Getting pinned, wearing his ring. Granted, I attended a few pinning ceremonies in my sorority in the late 1990s, but I mean, they just didn't hold the same suspense, magic, or gravity of, say, when Danny gave Sandy his ring in Grease.
13. Shotgun wedding. Don't you sometimes half wish your dad had a firearm and could just make things happen?
14. "I'll pencil you in" (woman speaking). It's so non-committal. I miss the pencil. And I miss my datebook.
15. Little black book. Because no one ever wrote, "Redhead From Club Electra – Do Not Pick Up" as the name of a contact in an address book.
Monday, February 14, 2011
love music for a love-ly day!
happy valentine's day!
to all you lovers out there...
where did the day go?
but i have to say, today has been fairly eventful.
i actually got up at 5:30!
(if you know me at all... you know that i love my sleep)
so that, in and of itself, is a miracle.
i got to the plasma center at 7, got out by 8,
went to class at 9...
and at 11:30...
and at 12:45...
and finally got home at 3.
i got some homework done, but one of my block classes (it only lasts for 6 weeks) ends this week, so i have a ton of stuff that is due for it this week. eight things are due this week from that class, in addition to the reading for child development, two tests for understanding dna, two projects for dna (luckily i've already taken so much biology that dna is second nature to me) and a test for mission prep. not my busiest week ever, but i am have to be done by thursday this week (because brooke and i are going on an adventure this weekend and i have to be done early!)
so what do you do as a singleton on valentine's day?
i really don't know.
i just go on living life the way i do every other day of the year...
if you have any suggestions, i am more than willing to listen!
but i don't believe in bemoaning the fact that i am single on valentine's day. i figure that i only have so many valentines days that i am going to be single (assuming that one day i will be married...) so why not be happy?
i saw this article today
and it made the jane-austenite in me very happy.
i think that being old fashioned is very fashionable sometimes.
i wish that we courted more
and wooed more.
and wrote love letters
(a love-text??? seriously? talk about super lame!)
it just doesn't have the same impact.
fine, i'm cheesy, but i do not lie.
i want a love letter.
[i'm getting down off my soap-box now]
here's the letter.